Father Len explores the history of marriage, our changing attitudes and expectations about it, God’s expectations for marriage, and what makes marriage so difficult yet so worthwhile.
Highlights, Ideas and Wisdom
- Ancient marriages were rarely about love and had little to do with religion. Marriages were pragmatic contracts between families about such things as wealth, political alliances, childbearing, and, for poor and working-class families, acquiring a work partner.
- Christ revolutionized expectations for marriage. Declaring it to be about unity, love, and becoming a true human being, having nothing to do with legal rights.
- Modern expectations for marriage revolve around happiness. Finding the one person that’s going to make me happy until they don’t. Then, it’s time to find a new partner.
- Marriage is a pathway to becoming the image of God, the image of love.
- Marriage involves a death, dying to ego and selfishness.
- “True love doesn’t make up for all your faults. True love exposes all your faults.” – Dante Alighieri
- You can’t work on your faults until they’re exposed.
- True love demands constant sacrifice.
- Marriage is about sacrificing your ego and learning to think as two rather than one.
- Unmarried people often have difficulty thinking about other people because they don’t have to.
- Marriage is a way to holiness because it is about the way of self-sacrificing love.
- God can save you, but your spouse gets you in the best shape to be saved.
- Marriage gets you ready for heaven.
- Marriage is about sacrificing everything for the sake of love.